Monday, November 14, 2016

Don't Tell Me Not To Be Afraid (11/14/16)

We have set the clock back hundreds of years this time around. Anyone who disagrees has not yet realized the full impact of their decision. They ignored all of the warning signs. They ignored the racist and bigoted remarks. They ignored the misogynistic remarks. They ignored the call for violence against those who disagree at rallies. They ignored the blatant ignorance of the Constitution or the Bill of Rights, yet they are against the very notion of amending either to exclude the electoral college which is responsible for the election of not just this pussy-grabbing tyrant, but the election of others who should also never have been in office. How can we call this a democracy when the popular vote, the voice of the citizens, is largely ignored time and time again? I have heard the arguments in favor of this elected person whom I will never refer to as my President or Commander in Chief. None of these arguments is as strong as the reasons he should never have been given this opportunity. When all is said and done, his erratic and immature behavior, and his inability to properly run a business let alone a country, will have grabbed us all by the pussy, even if we don’t have one, and raped us with utmost violence.

Perhaps these people feel that this rhetoric does not apply to them. Perhaps they are completely blind to the hate crimes and violence that has already begun to take place since the election and which actually began months before. Perhaps they figure that it will be like the 1950s when it was just certain groups of people, whose power for retaliation was severely limited at the time, that were being targeted, not them. Perhaps they wish to go back even further to the time when it was legal to hold slaves. We still have slavery, and many of those slaves are women. If you are a woman, or have a mother, a sister, a girlfriend, a wife…this applies to you.

I left Facebook four days ago because I just could not handle the plethora of stories about Blacks, Mexicans and Muslims being targeted and women being quite literally grabbed by the pussy by boys who, thanks to Trump, consider this to now be acceptable behavior. I stopped watching the news. Yet, despite this, I am still aware of what is going on in the world. You would have to lock yourself in a closet to be completely oblivious. So, assuming that these Trump supporters have not locked themselves in a closet, they are not oblivious to the things that he said or the ways in which he is ill-suited for the office of President. They have just chosen to ignore all of the above in favor of what they perceive will be different or better about this person. They tell me to not be afraid of what I “think” will happen. I say to them, I am afraid of what is already happening.

I used to enjoy the advantage of a white-privilege bubble; not because I am white, but because I look white. Women used to enjoy the advantage of living in a world where it was still largely frowned upon to hit or be violent towards women. I am not so dumb as to believe that violence toward women never happened – I know it did – I have experienced it – but it was not socially acceptable. Now it is. Trump has legitimized it in much the same way he has legitimized racism and bigotry. I was attacked at a bank by a white male who felt it was fine to just cut in front of me in line, nearly taking off my front bumper in the process. I was somehow out of line for honking at him and flipping him off. His thinking: I am a white male in a big truck and I am entitled to do whatever the hell I want. My thinking: you entitled piece of shit. His words: “I don’t care if you are a woman. That doesn’t mean shit to me.” You, your wife, your mother, your sister don’t mean shit to people like this. I had a knife on me this day, but it was buried in my purse somewhere. It can’t protect me against angry white men buried in my purse somewhere. I have carried my knife on my person every day since.

Just about every day, at some point during the day, I can be seen in public with a Mexican at my side. I will not change this, not even now. I want him there. He has every right to be there and I have every right to be with whomever I want. We get dirty looks. We experience people walking away from us because they don’t want to be near him. He hears a lot of stupid comments by ignorant people. He has recently been stalked by a group of people meaning to do him harm. I was told by a former co-worker that I should stick to my own race and age group. He was shocked when I told him I did. I am so white that I am vitamin D deficient and probably should spend a little more time in the sun. My father . . . my biological father . . . is even darker skinned than him and many of my extended family are different shades of brown. I fear for the safety of every single one of them.


Right now the White House, the Senate and the House are ruled by Republicans, many of which have legitimized a climate of white supremacy. These white supremacists have a rude awakening coming. Right now they feel legitimized. Right now they feel safe. The time will come however, when those groups of people they seek to oppress (persons of color, the LGBTQ community, women) will rise up and strike back. Do not mistake my warning for advocacy. This is the reality of the situation. They will strike back and then NO ONE will be safe. The only way to change this is to be part of the solution and not part of the problem. We cannot continue to legitimize a social climate of hate. We need to stand up against those people who embrace hatred and let them know that it will not be tolerated. Hold each other accountable. In the meantime, while we seek to reverse this massive setback in our progress, stay vigilant, be safe, defend yourselves and one another and love deeply.

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